Stages of grief Effects of adoption on the birth-mother

1 stages of grief

1.1 denial
1.2 anger
1.3 bargaining
1.4 depression (2 types)
1.5 acceptance

stages of grief

it not until mother places child adoption experiences julie axelrod believes similar 5 stages of grief: denial, anger, bargaining, depression, , acceptance. inspired elisabeth kübler-ross’s on death , dying, author attempts show how have experienced death of loved 1 may psychologically similar birth mother has placed child adoption.

the following occurs in each stage:

denial

the overwhelming nature of mother’s emotions allow feel numb situation. essentially, reality has not set in.

anger

this emotion manifestation of reality, understanding of how devastating impact mother s decision has made on , understandable vulnerability. may cause mother lash out closest or on herself.

bargaining

the mother begins rethink decision has made. feels need regain control of emotional state attempting bargain religious or psychological figure rid of sense of guilt.

depression (2 types)

in case of death, mother begin worry costs of funeral , burial, birth mothers relate costs how expensive care child.
this more secretive emotional state, mother feels alone. feels 1 knows going through, , feels best vent , reflect herself.

acceptance

there no real timetable when or if mother ever able accept decision, @ stage begins feel @ peace decision. still struggles reality of adoption, understands , believes acting in best interest of child.